Dating Safety Tips

Use common sense.
Anyone who seems to be too good to be true probably is. LamLi.com urges members to carefully scrutinize potential dates by communicating through LamLi.com via phone chat or email as long as it takes to get to know the person. Unfortunately, there are some unscrupulous people in the world who misrepresent themselves on dating sites, so be sure to watch for inconsistencies and strange behavior during your communications.

Take your time.
In this regard, finding a mate is not unlike any other dating situation. Gradually get to know anyone you meet on our site. If over time you find interactions with a potential mate consistent and trustworthy, then it's up to you to take the next step. Never become prematurely intimate via the phone or in email.

Safeguard your anonymity.
Member communication within LamLi.com is administered using a double-blind system that protects your true identity until you decide to reveal it. Never disclose your last name, e-mail address, home or office address, phone number, etc. in your profile or messages. Immediately cease communication with anyone who persists in asking for this type of information. LamLi.com will never ask for this type of information during your communication sessions.

Remember these steps.

1. Talk, talk, talk. One of the best features LamLi.com offers is phone chat. A person's true communication and social skills are typically easily revealed through their voice. Remember never to disclose your personal phone number until you are ready. If you decide to chat outside of LamLi.com, you may want to block your number. The number-blocking code *67 works on most cell phones and land lines.
2. Ask for a photo. Most LamLi.com members have chosen to include a photo in their profile. Photos help a great deal when using your "gut feeling" about a potential date. LamLi.com does not guarantee the authenticity of photos posted in member profiles, so it may be a good idea to ask for multiple pictures. If a member gives you multiple excuses as to why he or she cannot provide a photo, then he or she probably has something to hide. Again, use common sense and always trust your instincts.
3. Look for "red flags." Pay close attention to any odd behavior a potential date or activity partner may display. Passive-aggressive tendencies, unexplained anger, intense frustration and physically inappropriate actions are all potential red flags. Exercise extreme caution if you are ever confronted with this type of behavior. Also be sure to watch for these traits:
   • Failure to provide direct answers to direct questions.
     
   • Inconsistent information about appearance, age, marital status, employment, etc.
     
   • Significant difference in appearance from photos provided
     
4. Mutually agree on when and where to meet in person. Once you and your potential mate or activity partner decide to meet offline, be sure to tell a friend, relative or roommate all of the details regarding your meeting. Include your date's name and phone number, as well as your meeting place and time of the date. Always provide your own transportation and never have your date pick you up at home or your office. Your first meeting should be held at a well-known venue such as a restaurant or coffee shop. If you decide to move on to another location, use your own transportation. Remember that you can end the date whenever you want to. Never feel pressured into anything you don't want to do. It's also always a good idea to have a cell phone with you.
5. Be extra careful when traveling to another city. LamLi.com has members all over the country, so it's not unlikely you'll meet someone interesting who lives in another city. When you travel, arrange for your own car and hotel room. Try not to disclose where you're staying and agree to meet somewhere other than your hotel. Remember to give all of your meeting information to a friend or family member and confirm the validity of your meeting place with a hotel employee or via an online mapping and directions site. Never meet in a questionable area and always carry a cell phone with you.
6. End the date early if you have to. Always use your best judgment when ending a date. If the person you are meeting becomes belligerent or violent, try to diffuse the situation, and then leave as quickly as possible. You can always excuse yourself long enough to alert someone nearby or to call a friend or relative. If you have to, leave through a back door and drive away! If you feel your life is in danger, alert the proper authorities. LamLi.com believes it's always better to be safe than sorry.

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